Find Better Rooms

Sometimes the problem isn’t who you are —

it’s the environment you’re standing in.

A lot of kids experience bullying not because of their personality, their interests, or anything they did wrong —

but because of the group they’re trying to fit into.

The “cool” crowd.

The loud crowd.

The crowd that sets the tone in a classroom or a hallway.

Sometimes we attach ourselves to people who don’t actually bring out the best in us.

We want to be accepted, so we stay close… even when the space feels uncomfortable or unkind.

And if a certain group doesn’t welcome you?

That’s okay.

Truly — it’s okay.

There’s no award for belonging to people who make you feel small.

Find the kids who make you laugh.

Find the ones who appreciate your weird, your quiet, your loud, your curious — whatever makes you you.

Find the people who feel like home.

Trying to win over someone who puts others down almost never works.

A bully sees the world through one narrow point of view — their own.

And when you grow or change or step outside that viewpoint, they don’t know what to do.

Instead of adjusting, they try to pull you back into a shape that fits their comfort zone.

That’s not friendship.

And it’s not your job to fix it.

You don’t owe anyone your time or your energy just because they speak the loudest.

And they don’t get to decide how you live your life or who you get to be.

You get to choose your environment.

You get to choose your people.

You get to choose the rooms you stand in.

And here’s the interesting part:

When you step away from the people who try to control you,

you take away their power.

Sometimes they drift off.

Sometimes they soften.

Sometimes — once they can actually see you — they even change.

But either way, you grow.

You don’t win by fighting for a place that doesn’t fit.

You win by finding the place where you belong.

Choose better rooms.

Choose kinder rooms.

Choose the people who let you breathe.